Red Couch

We took the girls for their red couch photos this morning. Our group decided that since it is Mother's Day we really didn't want any screaming babies. So we took individual photos and then a big group shot at the end. Ruby did great until the very end when she decided she had simply had enough of photos.

Orphanage Visit

Yesterday was a hard day for all of us. We were scheduled to leave the hotel at 7:30am so I had to wake both girls up and rush through breakfast to meet Rebecca on time. The van ride to Yangdong SWI took over three hours but Abby and Ruby slept most of the way.

We ended up visiting two orphanages. Our first stop was at the orphange that is right next to Ruby's. Rebecca needed to stop there to photograph and "interview" two children there. I really can't go into all the details of this heartbreaking situation right now here on my blog. But I can tell you that there are two absolutely darling, HEALTHY (previously referred as nsn infants) four year old girls on the shared list.

We then proceeded on to Yangdong. We were warmly received by the director and his staff, given a nice tour of the grounds, and told a bit about the new two-story wing that is being built. Ruby was a bit unsure about being there. She refused to allow any of the staff to hold her except for the assistant director. This is the same woman who was holding Ruby in some of the earlier photos that we have of her. After our general tour, we were allowed to go upstairs to see where Ruby's bed was. This was the hardest part for me. It was also very hard for Abby as many of her preconceived fantasies and dreams of her life in her orphange were instantly shattered. Twenty-eight infants were in that one tiny room!

The director and his staff took us to lunch where we enjoyed fabulous food. We then drove to Ruby's finding place and were able to photograph that. Again this was very hard for Abby as she is trying so hard to understand why she isn't still living with her birth family in China.

The entrance gate to Yangdong SWI

Outdoor play yard

Laundry drying area. The new two-story wing under construction is in the background. It will house the older children on the second floor and will have an indoor playroom and library on the first floor.

Ruby with the assistant director

YunTai Botanical Gardens and More

This morning we went to the YunTai Botanical Gardens. As with my previous trip there, they were beautiful but HOT! At least this time we didn't get caught in a thunderstorm so we were able to have lunch in the great little noodle house next to the gardens. I took tons of photos but honestly I am just too tired to sort through them all tonight.

At 2:00 this afternoon we had to take Ruby to the medical exam place to get the first round of Hague required immunizations. She received two shots and will have to get three more on Saturday. The place was completely empty and they offered to do Ruby's official medical exam while we were there, even though it was scheduled for Saturday. It was nice to get that out of the way. When we go back on Saturday with our travel group we will only have to get the remaining three immunizations and can then go back to the hotel.

We had some major breakthroughs today. We got our first SMILE! She only gave us one but its a great start. I got her to eat a little banana, congee, and scrambled eggs at breakfast, two big bowls of congee at lunch, and another bowl at dinner. Bottles and formula are a definite no-go so we are just sticking with the sippy cups for water. Ruby also played much more today and had a great time dumping cheerios into stacking cups with Abby.

Tomorrow is going to be a long tough day. We are leaving at 7:30am to make the 3.5 hour drive to the Yangdong SWI. I am praying that this won't be too hard on Ruby (or me for that matter!). Also I hope that it will be a positive experience for Abby.

At the YunTai Botanical Gardens -- trying to stay cool in the shade

Ruby is finally feeding herself some snacks

Abby love the gardens -- especially all the fish in the ponds

Sisters playing together!

Baby Steps

Today we had lots of baby steps -- both literally and figuratively.

Ruby woke up much less sad this morning. We still haven't seen a smile but her cries today were generally ones of anger rather than the deep sadness of yesterday. When our guide picked her up she whimpered and immediately reached for me. But boy was she mad at me when she had to go to bed tonight!

She drank a complete bottle of formula/rice mixture first thing after she woke up this morning (the first one since we got her). She also polished off a big bowl of congee at breakfast. Unfortunately that is about all the food I could get into her today. But it was more than she ate yesterday and I have been able to get her to drink water fairly well.

She still wants to hold something in each hand all the time. But today she actually started banging the things into each other. She spent time turning them over in her hands and looking at them, even occasionally chewing on them. She even built a little tower with her stacking cups. She crumpled up a piece of paper and spent 15 minutes inspecting a McDonald's french fries box. Also when we went to the play room this evening she rolled a ball back and forth a few times with Abby! Finally she is beginning to play and interact a bit.

Ruby also took her first literal baby steps for us today. She is very wobbly and quite pidgeon toed. She stands with her legs as far apart as she can get them. Many times she forgets to move her feet forward and just steps side to side in the same spot. It is so cute!! She prefers that I hold her hand (actually her wrist since she has something in her hands at all times) but also did venture a bit on her own.

Tomorrow we are going to the Yuntai Botanical Gardens. It will be nice to spend some relaxing time outdoors after three days of official business in stuffy offices.

After a bath this morning -- which she hated by the way

Grieving

I'm sorry I haven't been able to post much yet. Ruby is grieving so hard and I really need to be with her. She is the most precious little soul. So tiny and fragile and sad. Abby has been such a wonderful big sister. She plays little games with Ruby and doesn't get at all discouraged that Ruby only sits there silently and doesn't respond at all. Abby just keeps on talking so sweetly and shows Ruby how to play.

Receiving Ruby

We arrived at the Guangdong Civil Affairs office around 2:30. There were quite a few other families there -- I would guess around 12-15. The room was a bit stuffy and I could feel the anticipation in the air. It was so wonderful to look around and see so many families waiting for their little ones.

Ruby arrived very shortly after we did. Rebecca gestured to me to come over to her on the other side of the room. I was about half way there when I saw Ruby being carried toward me. As she was handed to me she started to cry. She only cried for a few minutes and then completely shut down.

Our poor baby! She is grieving so hard. She hadn't uttered a single sound for almost 24 hours. And just now she began crying the most heart-wenching cry I have ever heard. As I sit here holding her and wiping the tears and sweat from her sweet face I just want to cry right along with her!

On our way to Civil Affairs -- two thumbs up from Abby

Our first glimpse

Abby with our wonderful guide Rebecca

A very scared little girl

Our Precious Ruby

I know you all are just interested in the photos so here they are -- will write all about our day later.